Archive for 2011
sex scandals, media and the mind
I recently read about a therapeutic technique whereby people are encouraged to repeat certain helpful messages to themselves each time they use their MetroCard to enter the NYC subway system. Since people use the subway at least two times per day in NYC, the thinking goes, swiping one’s MetroCard can be used as a reminder,… Read More…
appetites, addiction & relationality
Human beings have a variety of powerful appetites. We hunger for food, love, fun, meaning, physical affection, bodily safety and material security. Adults hunger for sex. Children hunger for play. Both hunger for a sense of competence in navigating their environments. The list goes on. These appetites are not frivolous desires; they are physiological mandates… Read More…
an authentic way of being
Jesper Juul, a family therapist from Scandinavia and director of Family Counseling International, writes that in order to help children grow and develop in the healthiest ways possible, “Parents need to shift their consciousness toward a more authentic way of being.” After reading that sentence, I found myself coming back to it again and again.… Read More…
a toxic relationship
Every relationship we have with another person has its own culture, complete with its own norms, traditions, expectations, unwritten rules, implicit agreements, routines and historical artifacts. As is true with any other micro-culture (i.e. the workplace, the family, an organization), the culture of each individual relationship – personal or professional – can be healthy, toxic… Read More…
anger management
What do you think you know about anger? If you (or people you know) feel that you need anger management training, it’s very likely that the understanding you have about anger is part of your problem. In other words: How you currently understand anger is an integral part of why you have “anger issues.” a… Read More…
