Sex addiction seems to be where alcoholism was in the 1940s: misunderstood, shrouded in secrecy and saturated with shame. Surely that will change over time, but for now people suffering from sex addiction are saddled with the added difficulty of intense social stigma about their condition.
The first step in getting help is to break the silence. The safety and confidentiality of therapy has allowed many thousands of men and women to talk about their experiences and to no longer be alone. Further, therapy helps people to let go of toxic emotions, understand their own behaviors and take responsibility for living a healthier life on all levels.
I have helped numerous men and women who were suffering with compulsions and obsessions regarding sexual acting out, pornography, masturbation, shame, guilt and more. Many clients attend 12-step meetings (in person or online) as part of their recovery as well: Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex And Love Addicts Anonymous – all of which can be learned about online.
Therapy and 12-step meetings are places where you can find answers to such questions as:
Is my relationship to pornography over the line?
Why do I act out sexually even when I don’t want to?
Why can’t I just quit?
Can I change all this without letting my spouse know about my struggles?
Will the shame and guilt ever go away?
Most importantly, therapy and 12-step recovery meetings offer you non-judgmental support as well as the opportunity to get honest with yourself and others and break the cycle of acting out and feeling ashamed. As the saying goes, no one gets well alone.
Chris Kingman | Therapy
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