codependency & love addiction: are they the same thing?

There’s not much to be gained by trying to discern the differences in these two concepts. They came into existence and evolved, albeit during different decades, in reference to essentially the same set of dysfunctional patterns that many people exhibit in romantic relationships.

Why do I procrastinate?

If procrastination is so destructive then why do we do it? Why don’t we just create to-do lists and stick to them? The answer is simple: we procrastinate excessively due to unresolved emotional/existential conflicts about our lives. Read more…

Is it fear that prevents emotional intimacy? Not exactly.

Fear is too often seen as the cause of emotional disturbances in relationships when, in truth, it is actually more of the effect. The effect of what? Insufficient experience and inadequate learning. Read more…

can porn really be an addiction?

Drug and alcohol addiction are often likened to cancer in that they develop in stages, with stage 4 literally being deadly. Addiction to porn develops in stages as well, and while no one will die from using porn, there are many, many people who are experiencing the potential or actual “death” of their healthy sex drives, self-esteem and important relationships. Read more…

Is your childhood keeping you from building healthy relationships?

Inside and outside of the psychotherapy office, it’s not unusual to hear someone say, “The past is in the past.” Actually, when it comes to relationships, the past is always present. In this regard, the important question to ask yourself when attempting to build healthy relationships is: HOW is the past present? Read more…