Irvin Yalom, master therapist

Posted on: February 23, 2015
Irvin D. Yalom

How pleasantly surprised I was recently to see Irvin Yalom’s article in the New York Times’ Sunday Review section. Reading it brought tears to my eyes—partly because the article itself was so moving but mostly because it brought to mind the span of Yalom’s long and mighty career and the profound impact he’s had on so many of us.  Read more…

relationships require emotional creativity

Posted on: February 5, 2015
emotional creativity

Emotional creativity involves relating to your own negative emotional reactions as raw material with which to build and create. Once you take this perspective, you will no longer see yourself as a passive victim of your own negative emotions. Nor will you allow yourself to believe that your partner is “making you” feel this way. Read more…

helping men be more needy

Posted on: January 12, 2015
helping men be more needy

There’s a particular challenge to discussing emotional needs in therapy with men because our social conditioning so often idealizes being macho, playing it cool, being detached and above it all, etc. In reality this hyper-guarded and aloof posture that men are explicitly and implicitly trained to assume turns into a private hell over time.  Read more…

codependency & personal power

Posted on: August 27, 2014
personal power

Far too many people have learned to automatically and habitually give away their personal power. Without realizing what they’re doing, they repeatedly idealize other people (particularly authority figures and romantic interests) and then subjugate themselves to those people.  Read more…

negative emotions: toxic or healthy?

Posted on: March 31, 2014
negative emotions

Experiencing negative emotions is an unavoidable dimension of human life: fear, anger, jealousy/envy, anxiety, depression, insecurity, hopelessness, inadequacy, etc. We all grapple with these feelings at one time or another, and on any given day their intensity can be minute, moderate or severe. Read more…