misunderstanding depression & anxiety
When we feel depressed or anxious, it is no joke. Other terms that we use to describe these painful feelings […]
sex, shame and communication
To state the obvious, sex is deeply woven into the fabric of human consciousness and human life at every level. […]
the practice of waking up
Far too many people have learned to automatically and habitually give away their personal power. Without realizing what they’re doing, they repeatedly idealize other people (particularly authority figures and romantic interests) and then subjugate themselves to those people.
principles to live by
What principles do you live by? Do you know? The principles that underlie how we see ourselves, how we see […]
replacing fear with love
The awareness of human separation, without reunion by love – is the source of shame. It is at the same […]
seeing through a new lens
I’m not sure where I heard the following tale, but I’ve thought of it often over the years: A boy […]
compare/despair – a toxic habit
One of the most common and most destructive mental habits that I see people suffering from in my therapy practice […]
centering practice
It’s all too common these days to hear people refer to some aspect of their behavior as “Oh, that’s my […]
the beauty of being wrong
Several months back, my wife and I were having brunch with friends in Ditmas Park. At one point in the […]
awareness – acceptance – action
I went to a two day conference last week on “Acceptance and Commitment Therapy” given by Steven C. Hayes. I […]